The Philippines and Malta are the only countries in the world that strongly oppose the legalization of divorce.
MANILA, Philippines — Karen, not her real name, recalled the time when her parents separated, she was just 12 years old. After that she had lost motivation to finish her studies.
“Gusto kong huminto na lang sa pag-aaral para hindi ako naiinggit, para hindi rin ako lagi tinatanong ‘nasaan ang tatay mo bakit di mo kasama’,” said Karen.
(I no longer wanted to continue my studies so that I wouldn’t feel envious of others, and so that no one will ask me anymore where my father is and why he is not with me.)
Psychologist Dr. Camille Garcia said that what Karen experienced is an emotional impact of having separated parents.
Now that the divorce bill is being pushed in the House of Representatives (HoR), Garcia is worried about the more negative effects of a broken family on children.
Stubbornness is also one effect of parental separation.
The worst, the psychologist noted, is when a child begins to think that separation among married couples is normal.
“Baka mamaya magkaroon sila ng confusion na ayoko na ng kasal. Ayoko na maging binding. Ayoko ng commitment kasi ganito nangyari sa parents ko, nagkaroon ng commitment tapos inanak lang kami, after two years wala na,” said the psychologist.
(They might get confused. They might no longer want marriage, or commitment because they would think it’s what normally happens. They will just conceive children, and then after two years, they will separate.)
Congressman Edcel Lagman is pushing for the passage of the proposed bill which seeks to legalize and make easier the process of divorce.
However, Lagman’s ally in the minority group, Magdalo partylist Rep. Gary Alejano, expressed opposition to the proposal.
“If open door sa mabilis na maghiwalay, marami na maghihiwalay. Kawawa ang mga anak. We should strengthen the family (If we provide an open door to easier separation, the children will suffer. We should strengthen the family.) ,” said Alejano.
The Philippines and Malta are the only countries in the world that strongly oppose the legalization of divorce. — Grace Casin | UNTV News & Rescue